This isn’t some conspiracy theory of weird ‘mass control’ hype.
It’s about a simple truth.
The truth is that, whether we know it or not, we are all constantly being hypnotized everyday of our lives.
Sometimes this is deliberate, and sometimes it’s also good.
When a friend cheers you up after you’ve had a bad day, they probably don’t know it, but that’s a form of hypnosis.
When you decide to by that new pair of shoes after being dazzled by the latest ad, yes I’m afraid you were hypnotized.
Of course, by ‘hypnotized’ I don’t mean in the creepy mind control sense you see in the movies, what I mean is that you responded subconsciously to an idea placed by somebody else.
Often that happens to subtly that even if you’re looking for it, it’s hard to spot.
Perhaps you said hi to an old friend the other day, and they ignored you.
In reality they probably just didn’t happen to hear your greeting, but maybe you subconsciously interpreted this as a form of rejection, and left feeling bad.
Why is this hypnosis? Because your state of mind changed based on the implied idea or message behind someone’s non verbal communication (or lack thereof).
This subtle, unintentional hypnosis happens all the time.
Some people live their lives constantly being buffeted around by ill-informed guesses as to what others think of them.
If someone pays them a compliment, they cheer up because they accept the positive hypnotic suggestion.
If someone is rude to them, they get depressed because they accept the negative hypnotic suggestion.
This can be a big problem, because before you know it instead of living YOUR life on YOUR terms, you’re merely a hacky sac being kicked around clumsily by the ideas and messages you surround yourself with.
Of course, as human beings and members of a social species, we cannot help responding in someway to the messages and reactions around us, which is what it’s important to surround yourself with positive people in a positive, interesting environment.
But there’s only a certain amount you can do to control the world around you.
What you do have more or less complete control of, however, is the world within you.
This is an attitude shift as much as anything.
Imagine how much better life would be if, instead of being at the mercy of the outside world, you were in complete control of your word.
Not only does this make things better immediately but it also has a ripple effect.
The way you think affects the way you behave, and the way you behave effects the world around you.
I think the “law of attraction” hyped things up a little too much when it claimed that your thoughts effect the real world directly, but that’s just my opinion. What I do know is that the way you think effects YOUR world, and the way you BEHAVE effects the world at large.
The paradigm shift I want you to make is to realize that the way you react to what happens in the world is often much more important than what actually happens.
Stop being ‘hypnotized’ without your knowledge by the world around you, and become your own hypnotist!
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By Rene Bastarache, CI
We all understand the rules or process of “eating out”. If you
want to get a meal, you must place your order. It’s just that simple
and all of us would say it is common sense. You can sit in a
restaurant all day long but if you don’t place an order you will see
everyone else get fed except for you. No order – no meal!
Do you understand the rules or process of “using your mind”?
You may have heard the phrase that Thoughts become Things. Without
a thought a thing could not exist. It is the basic rule of Cause
and Effect. Without a cause there cannot be an effect, that’s basic
science. Cause being the thought and effect being the materialization
Everything began with a thought. Someone had to think about
how to make a computer before it could be made. The clothes you
are wearing began as a thought in someone’s mind. The food you eat,
the car you drive and even the words that you say began with thought.
This even extends into how your life has turned out. Your wealth or
lack of, health or disorder, happiness or despair. It all began with
a thought whether it came from you or someone else or society in
general. That is Cause and Effect.
Most people have difficulty believing in the Cause, as it is
invisible and they only understand the Effect because they can see
it. This explains why so many live such limited lives. It is like
electricity. It is invisible yet it is responsible for your lights
turning on and your toaster being able to toast. The seen comes
from the unseen. We cannot see air yet we can breathe. We cannot
see gravity but we stay on the ground. If you do not believe in this
unseen or invisible gravity, just try jumping in the air and see if
you come down or not. Without the Cause or the invisible portion of
the equation there would be no lights, air or gravity for us to have
the desired effect.
Going back to the restaurant again, you realize that you must
place an order to be able to get your meal. Your mind works the
same way. You must place an order mentally, with your thoughts
before you can receive anything you want as well. That sounds
obvious but it is done so little.
When you are sick, you must imagine yourself as healthy in
order to be healthy.
You must imagine happiness in order to be happy.
You must think of wealth in order to be wealthy.
You are presently the result of your dominant thoughts.
It’s amazing how many times when asking someone what they want
how they respond with what they “don’t” want. Since you always
attract your dominant thoughts or what you focus on; if you are
focusing on the negative then that is what you will get. In other
words if you focus on not getting a divorce, your focus is on getting
a divorce and that is being attracted to you. That is the order
you placed. Instead you must focus on being happy or having a
Whenever things are going bad, downhill or negatively, stop
your present way of thinking and immediately ask yourself: What do
I want?” and only focus on that. Someone approached me the other
day stating that they were so upset and everything seem to be going
so badly. They wished there were a way that this streak of negative
could just stop and things could be better. I asked the young man
if he had taken the time to think of how he would like to be
feeling? He looked at me in such a puzzled manner as if I was
speaking in an unknown language. Of course he hadn’t, he was too
busy focusing on being miserable and thereby attracting more misery.
If you don’t focus on happiness then you will not have it.
Why? In order for there to be a change there must be a change.
Something must interrupt the negative flow and change it’s direction.
A new thought must exist to do that.
You must think of, focus on or order health in order to be healthy.
You must order success in order to be successful.
You must order a loving relationship in order to have one.
You must desire and order happiness in order to have it.
The average human has about 64,000 thoughts a day. So you are
going to have thoughts whether you want to or not. Each one of them
is placing an order of some sort. Most of them cancel each other
out. We are ordering machines, constantly placing orders that we
are not even aware of. If you are going to do it by default anyway
then why not take advantage of this process and deliberately begin
placing orders for your benefit.
Begin living deliberately rather than by default. Happy ordering…
Have you heard of Robert Cialdini? Robert Cialdini is a psychologist who
revolutionized the world’s perspective on persuasion and influence when he
came up with…
… “The 6 Weapons of Influence.”
These 6 principles allow you to tap
into the fundamental human drives
and motivations which make us do
what we do.
As a hypnotist you can use these
principles to help people make
rapid changes which stick.
In everyday life you can use these
principles to influence others, get
your own way, and help yourself
and others live fulfilling lives.
Cialdini’s 6 Weapons of Influence
Weapon 1: Scarcity.
Marketers use this one all the time.
If something is scare – ie there’s a
limited quantity – we immediately
consider it to be valuable.
Weapon 2: Authority.
You see this one in the world everyday.
People always listen to the police officer
in uniform, the judge at the head of the
high table, the doctor in the white coat.
People in positions of authority get
their own way.
You don’t need a uniform to come across
as an authority figure, however.
Conduct yourself with confidence, and if
you seem like you’re in control of a situation,
more often than not others will believe you.
Weapon 3: Liking
This one’s obvious, but still very powerful.
People respond to people who they like.
So, make other people feel good around
Never forget the simple value of rapport,
and of being truly interested in helping
others and making them happy.
Weapon 4: Reciprocity
There’s a reason why cosmetic companies
send out free samples.
If someone does something nice for you,
it’s natural to want to do something nice
Cialdini advises that if you do something
to help someone, instead of politely responding
to their gratitude with “don’t worry about it,
it was nothing,” say the magic words…
… “I know you’d do the same for me.”
I’m sure you can imagine how this simple
sentence taps right into the reciprocity
Weapon 5: Social Proof
People like to do things which get them
accepted and socially validated by others.
This is why marketers show you testimonials,
and why people lose their individuality when
they’re in groups.
Riots and mob violence is one example of
Another is what psychologists call the
History shows us a number of scary cases
where crowds have watched someone being
mugged or assaulted, and done nothing.
Why? Because no one else was doing anything!
Social proof is an incredibly powerful idea
to be aware of.
Weapon 6: Commitment
People like to be consistent. If they make a
commitment to something – particularly a
public commitment – they will be reluctant
to break it.
So that’s it! Use these 6 tools well, and
they’ll help you out tremendously in the
by Nathan Thomas
The allure of being “The Hypnotist” is often so powerful that people forget there are many other ways to create change and transformation, in yourself and in others. I thought I’d share with your four ways to create powerful changes… without using “hypnosis.”
Hopefully this post will give you some ideas and show you just how many tools, models and methodologies you have available.
Tool 1: NLP
Some people say that NLP was created as a way to “take hypnosis out of hypnosis,” and market disguised hypnosis techniques to main stream therapists, and the corporate world.
The overlap between NLP and hypnosis (whatever “hypnosis” is…) is massive, but there are a lot of new things to pick up. My biggest piece of advice if you are going to look into NLP is not to get sucked into what I consider the rather cult like world of trainers, certifications and “camps.”
Learn from who you like, and use what you find valuable, and don’t worry about which NLP big name’s logo you want to be able to put on your wall!
Tool 2: Old School Persuasion and Influence
The field of persuasion, influence is huge! From sales training to presentation skills, nearly everything taught can be cross applied to do whatever you want it to do! Sales techniques can definitely help you be a better street hypnotist, and public speaking tricks can most certainly help you be more persuasive in everyday conversations.
When you’re next in a book store, flick through a few books on sales techniques and public speaking, and you’ll probably find a lot of gems.
Tool 3: Conventional (or Unconventional) Wisdom
The biggest mistake people make in the world of self development, is reading about nothing but self development!
To paraphrase Milton Erickson, self development books often have how to be successful in life wrapped up in a nutshell, trouble is “they miss out the nut, and only take the shell!”
Read a biography of someone you admire. Delve into classic works of fiction. Read about history and philosophy. Broaden your horizons and become curious about the entire world! You’ll pick up ideas, tips, stories and principles that will help you tremendously in whatever interaction you find yourself in.
Tool 4: The Big Wide World…
Sorry, I told a lie in the last tool.
The biggest mistake people make in the self development world is NOT only reading about self development… it’s only reading!
My greatest love is travel. I love hopping on a plane at night, and waking up in a strange foreign city. You meet new people, and discover weird and wonderful ways of looking at the world.
Make the world your playground, get out there, and start taking action.
by Nathan Thomas
The trouble with the world of influence / self development, is that it’s core question is often a harmful one.
People ask “how can I act differently so that I get more from life.”
The very premise of that question concedes that how you are is wrong, but rather than improve yourself on a deep level, you should simply modify a few external behaviors, and pretend that you’re something that you’re not.
So, people learn techniques, and tools and patterns and principles, and set about trying to consciously change their behavior, without changing themselves.
While the patterns and techniques certainly are powerful and are used by many for great effect, at the end of the day they are empty… unless you are congruent!
What Is Congruence
Congruence is when your beliefs and your actions are aligned.
It is when you are what you do.
If you look to anyone who is truly charismatic and persuasive, you’ll notice that while they probably are using techniques of influence, consciously or otherwise, what really makes the difference is that they are congruent with what they are doing.
Why Is Congruence So Powerful?
There are dozens of answers to this question.
Congruence is powerful because incongruence is extremely noticeable – if you are using techniques to veil or hide your personality, I’m afraid it tends to stick out. People can tell that you aren’t really being you, and while you make get some results, it will only be a faint shadow of what you’d achieve whilst being congruent.
How To You Become Congruent?
Well, actually congruence is easy!
It’s what we naturally are. The answer is simply stop being incongruent!
Of course, there’s a lot more to it than that. But the first step is always awareness. Become aware of the importance of congruence, and start consciously stopping yourself from acting incongruently in your interactions.
It can be confusing at first – many of us have been stopping ourselves from being congruent all our lives, and it’s a real effort to remember which behaviors are authentic to us, and which ones are the masks that we’re simply accustomed to wearing.
How to Use Tools of Influence Whilst Being Congruent
There is nothing more powerful than someone who is both congruent and a skilled and well trained influencer. These people truly live free and fulfilled lives, and help others do likewise.
When I teach persuasion and influence skills, my goal is to always help you balance technique with congruence. This means that as well as learning the cool tricks of influence that are so popular – pattern interrupts, language techniques and so on – you’ll learn to integrate them into your natural, congruent way of interacting.
This means you can walk through the world whilst naturally being a powerful influencer – without having to fake it.
The key to this is to realize that who we are changes. So, rather than asking yourself “how can I pretend to be a better influencer than I am” simply ask yourself “how can I become a better influencer than I am…”
It may seem blindingly simple, but this one fundamental shift will free you from the baggage which seems to trap 99% of society!
In this article on influence and conversational hypnosis, you’re going to learn about the stunning power of silence. In many situations silence is probably the most powerful persuasion tool. I discovered this decades ago through all my business dealings, whilst traveling and throughout life.